Do love and sex belong in the same bed? If you are a married couple, then the answer is no. People from all walks of life have different opinions about this issue, but the truth is that love and sex belong in the private, personal space of your bedroom.
The dictionary defines love as an emotional bond or relation between two people, especially intimate relationships like marriage, common-law relationships, and others. Sex, on the other hand, is defined as the physical act of sexual intercourse. As mentioned above, there are many different opinions about the two. But most people would agree that love and sex belong in the same space and should be treated as such.
Love and sex are very different. They are very different because they are engaged in by other people. People have different experiences with love and sex. Some love it, and some don’t. The important thing is that intimacy is a huge component of having a great, loving, intimate relationship.
Sex is about lust, and sex is about love. Having the passion for love and being in love with the sexual act is different from experiencing love and intimacy with someone emotionally. There needs to be some inner spiritual connection for this to happen, but some feel that the spiritual side can be realized through sex.
Sex without intimacy will result in infidelity, and infidelity destroys any chance of ever developing any real intimacy. People that experience love and intimacy with another person will be more likely to be faithful to that person. That’s why some religious organizations now teach that sex is not supposed to be an intimate act. It happens in private, and a relationship needs to have some inner spiritual bond to be created. Sexual intimacy should be reserved for marriage and faith.
Sex and love can take place in private spaces. If two lovers share a bed or sleep in the same room, sex has taken place in a personal area. In this scenario, intimacy is not happening. However, sex can still occur in secret locations, like when two lovers decide to get engaged and then plan a wedding and exchange rings in a public place. They can also occur in a private setting like a hotel room.
When two lovers get married at a church wedding, they share personal space with everyone else in attendance. The physical barriers of walls and doors are no longer present. This is why intimacy occurs in private rooms. It becomes a spiritual event because it involves two people coming into a commitment to each other, not just individuals. In a marriage commitment, sex and love belong in private and sacred spaces.
Sex and love between two healthy adults are healthy and okay. It is a gift that comes from within and should be received freely. It does not belong in the bedroom, nor does it have to. Sharing is always fair and considered to be intimate. If you will have intimacy, then go ahead and have sex, but don’t combine it with sharing because that creates a conflict and breaks the connection.
Sex and love should be private and sacred spaces that only people involved know about. People can find more intimate encounters by looking online for other couples and individuals having private, meaningful conversations about love, sex, and relationships. You can reconnect with friends you haven’t spoken to in years and learn new things from them about love.
People should seek personal space and intimacy when they want to be free and clear of judgment and scrutiny from others. Just being able to shut down their minds and bodies on purpose is a compelling and effective way to make a deeper connection with another person. Intimacy is a process that goes both ways. We should never judge a person or treat them differently just because they are in a particular private space. If we see somebody as less than worthy of intimacy, then we are sending the message that sex and love don’t belong in private areas and are only experienced in public ones.
When you are with another person, it should always be a private experience to get to know them deeply and find out what kind of person they are. This is the best way to have private sex and love. Nobody should be making the decisions for you. If you feel like your partner doesn’t know you as well as you think they do, it’s not your fault. They may have been busy in the sack with someone else, or they may be too stressed out in their lives to focus on you. However, it’s your job to listen and not assume that you know what they are going through!
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